Sunday, September 21, 2014

"With God, all things are possible" ... perhaps even some things that shouldn't be [Video]

Ever feel discouraged about your own skills or abilities? Well, let me encourage you. If these people can accomplish this, surely you can do anything.

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I just added this video to the list of things I watch and listen to when I feel discouraged. Enjoy

Thursday, September 18, 2014

My wife and My takeaways from two weeks with NO SEX!

Disclaimer: Obviously there are lots of guys and gals who abstain from sex for a lot longer than two weeks. Some couples just don't have sex very frequently, and that's normal and good for them. This post is in no way a judgement of the healthy frequency of sex within a marriage.  
 There's this verse in the Bible that that talks about fasting from sex in your marriage (1 Corinthians 7:5). Not too long ago I read it and prayed:

Dear Lord, that's a stupid idea. Amen.
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It seemed dumb to stop doing something that develops marital intimacy . And if I'm fasting from sex, what am I supposed to think about all the time? Fortunately for me, God has much greater vision for my marriage than I do.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Husbands, are you aware of the scariest thing your wife faces? Here's how you face it.

Last week my surgeon stood over me with a pair of over-sized medical tweezers inserted about two inches into an incision in my abdomen. My stomach was numb, so I couldn't feel anything. But I was wide awake and curiously watching him.

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He worked quietly for a few minutes, fishing around for a benign tumor that he was going to remove. Suddenly, he spoke up, "Dammit!"

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Ask a recovering addict to speak to the youth group about sex, and here's what happens [Video]

Usually when people ask me to speak, I'm all for it. Even when it involves exposing my very painful and embarrassing past, I get excited about the opportunity to discover more potential in my speaking skills, and be used by God to influence the lives of other people. But after a family at my church asked me to share my experiences with the consequences of casual sex and porn, I was scared.

It wasn't that I was scared to tell people about my ugly past. I do that all the time. What scared me was that they wanted me to share my story with 6th-12th grade boys and girls. That's means youth between the ages of 12 and 17. That's a huge age range. It'd be sorta like asking a veterinarian to explain to a group of male and female un-neutered dogs and cats (who are in heat) why they should abstain from sex to help keep the animal population down. At least that was my experience in high school, when I heard the sex talk.

Sunday, September 7, 2014

What do you say to your wife during her darkest moments? (like during a miscarriage for example)

A couple weeks ago Allison visited her midwife to look into a concern she had about the pregnancy. We both felt like there was nothing to worry about, but wanted to be safe. An ultrasound confirmed our worse fears. Not only was NOT nothing wrong, but we had lost the baby.

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Perhaps the most fortunate factor was that we were pretty early in the pregnancy (10 weeks), so we hadn't heard a heart beat or felt any movement. That made things a little easier. But it was still pretty difficult nonetheless.

As our midwife told us a bunch of stuff that I wasn't paying any attention to, I wondered what I would do - what could I do to comfort my poor wife. Discovering that we had lost the baby was painful for me, but I knew there was no way it could hurt for me as much as it did for her. After all, my contribution to the pregnancy was... minuscule compared to hers. 

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Loving what you do is not enough. Here's the shot of adrenaline your passions need

They say if you do what you love, you'll never go to work a day in your life. But I'm not so quick to buy that. It seems like a wise proverb, but does it really hold true? Is love really all you need to keep what you do fresh and interesting? I have a hard time agreeing.

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I do what I love. I'm a full time musician and church leader. I play music at my church and I get to create environments where people can connect with God and each other . And they pay me to do this. I do what I love, but sometimes it really feels like work. And not in a good way. 

Some days are more challenging than others. Some seasons are more tiring. And sometimes it even seems a little bit stale. And I believe this happens, not because I don't love my job, but because love is not enough. There's another element to keeping the job you love... well lovable. 

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

The stupid thing that, if you ask for it, will revolutionize your prayer life.

Do you pray as often as you'd like to?

If you're like the vast majority of Christians, the answer is no. For many it feels impossible to chisel out a few minutes to hit their knees during busy days. For others praying just feels like a clunky awkward process that is, even if they won't admit it, a little intimidating.
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Whatever the reason, prayer just doesn't seem to make it onto the daily task list. Lots of people have even challenged themselves to pray more regularly, saying,  I'll just make sure I pray every morning before I get out of bed. The really ambitious ones even planned a daily time of prayer and devotion (which some Christians seem to believe are prerequisites to getting into heaven). But eventually things got in the way. At least that's what happened to me.