Sunday, July 20, 2014

How my wife told me she's pregnant & my VERY honest response [Video]

One of my greatest mentors once said, "If God wants something to happen in your life, there's nothing you can do to stop it." And I have found that to be true, especially when it comes to the number of kids I have.

Allison and I had been talking about having another baby for a while. We were pretty much resolved to stick with the three kids we already have. In fact, I had even gotten a referral to a urologist to get snipped.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Why I Am So Honest About My Porn Addiction | I wrote this one while on Percocet

Earlier this week, I had 67 tumors cut out of my body. You can click here to learn about the surgery and my recovery, if you'd like. Now I'm at home recovering with heavy doses of Percocet and Doctor Who. And as long as I'm high as a kite, I figured I'd write about one of my favorite topics - Porn Addiction.

Sometimes people ask me (in my imagination) why I talk so openly about my addiction to and recovery from porn. And it's a fair question. I had the same question when I was a kid. One of my youth counselors at church stood up in front of our class and confessed he had struggled with porn. My friends and I were just grossed out. We thought why is he telling us all of this?

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

I survived the surgery, and you won't believe how many tumors they removed from my body. [Video]

I got home from the hospital a few hours ago, and I've been sleeping off the last of the anesthesia. The surgery went really well. At least, that's what they tell me. I was in the operating room for right around 3 hours, and they removed a grand total of sixty seven tumors from all over my body. It looks like I got chewed up by a snaggle-toothed shark.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Raising Daughters | Tony Smith's Story

This morning, I'm on an operating table receiving the world's most absurd weight loss surgery. So this is a guest post from my good friend, Tony Smith. He is the Resident Worship Leader at my church, Moon Valley Bible. He has three daughters, and in this article he shares some of his insights on raising girls. You can read more from him on his blog.

Photo courtesy of Aaron Gilson at

Sunday, July 13, 2014

It's the world's most absurd weight loss surgery, and I'm getting it!

You know that feeling you get when you find a lump? Then you immediately think it's cancer. I'm gonna die. That's what happened to me about 10 years ago. My friend, who is a massage therapist, found a lump on my lower back and was concerned.

Photo courtesy of Luca Rossato at

Thursday, July 10, 2014

My stupid web designer asked me a stupid question that ruined everything!

At the end of this post, I'm going to ask you to give your input on the 1 question poll, in the right sidebar. But you don't have to read this post before you take the poll. If you scroll down a bit, you can just click your answer right now. I'll be using your answer to inform my writing for the next year. So your input is valuable. Now, on with the story.
I asked Nate for a picture of himself, and he didn't send me one,
so I used this super nerd pic from David Sittig at
When I asked Nate, my web designer, to create a new theme for my blog, I thought I was going to get just that - a new blog theme. He asked me to send him a few examples of other blogs I really like. So I sent him the links to the blogs of Carlos Whittaker, Jarrid Wilson, Michael Hyatt, and a few more guys and gals who have good looking blogs.

A few months later, we got together again to look at some preliminary mockups of the new He showed me two designs. One was okay, but the second one I absolutely loved. Then he started with the stupid questions, asking, "What do you want to do with your blog in the next 5 years?" I sort of hemmed and hawed and mumbled about some book ideas, and products that have been on my mind.

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Chuck E Cheese On Worship And Church Planning [Video]

When you take your kids to a place like Chuck E Cheese, you hope they'll have a fun experience. But my kid's experience was anything but fun when the man sized mouse came out, and acted like he just didn't want to be there.

If you're having trouble seeing the video, click here to see it.

 Chuck E Cheese was a great example of how NOT to create a great experience for people. And as I seek to build a memorable experience at Moon Valley Bible, here are three things that are working really well.

1. Simplicity Reigns. Your church family just doesn’t have the capacity to pay attention to everything that goes on during your services. And the more that you do, the less they’ll catch. So let simplicity lead your planning. If you’re planning a big holiday service, try just doing one special thing, but do it really well. That will help make it something they won’t forget.

At my church we’ve recently began to pursue simplicity by just announcing one thing each week during our services. It means many of our church’s ministries have to find other ways to promote their events. But it helps us put a spotlight on our biggest events.

2. Powerful personalities over plastic props. When I took my family to Chuck E Cheese, if a guy had come out with whiskers painted on his face who was excited to be there, it would have been more captivating than the guy in the full get up but who didn’t care. It’s certainly worth your time to make your church’s stage look good. But if the people preaching, greeting and leading worship don’t look like they care, then your church won’t either. 

3. Keep it moving. Have you ever watched aTV show where they begin playing the next episode while the credits from the previous episode are still playing? They do that because they understand that people disengage when there’s dead space.

As you prepare for your church services, it’s worth everyone's time to ensure that the transitions between your music, videos and preaching are seamless. The more connected your elements are, the more of your church's attention you’ll keep.

Question: Based on what you saw in the Chuck E Cheese video, do you think I should call the manager and tell him about the poor performance?

Please leave your response in the comment section below.